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BMD interview: identical twin mom, Katy bares it all

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BMD: Who are you and what do you do?
My name is Katy and I’m 29 years old. I’m a twin mama to 9-month-old natural identical twin girls, Jordyn and Jayda Robinson aka @the_robinson_twinz on IG! I’m a working mama who works for an airline and I’m also a lifestyle coach on the side which means I empower women to live a healthier lifestyle each day. I also manage the girls’ Instagram account which most of the time feels like a full-time job!

BMD: What was your first reaction when you found that you were carrying twins?
When I found out I was having twins I instantly cried. It was tears of every emotion I could think of honestly. I was already overwhelmed when I first found out I was pregnant because it wasn’t planned! I was nervous, scared, financially freaked out, mad, sad, happy, but part of me was also super excited and ready to do this. I was especially excited because when I was younger, I had friends that were twins and they had this special bond like no other. I wished I had a twin for the sole fact of that special bond they shared. I had always wanted a sister to bond with but it was only me and my brother.

It’s actually crazy because 6 years ago when I was still using the twitter platform, I had made a tweet saying “I love twins, I always wished I was one and since I’m not, when I have children, I want twins!!” Crazy right?! So when I found out it totally blew my mind.

BMD: Did you take any special care to cope up with your twin pregnancy?
I really powered through my pregnancy up until the last couple of months. In the end, it did feel like a lifetime since I was so uncomfortable and I only made it to 7 months. But If I had any questions, my nurses and doctors were there to help with any questions I had. Of course, I had family and friends there to support me as well (and good old Google).

I’m now a part of a twin mom Facebook group that has thousands of other moms which is pretty cool where you can get tons of support and advice or even make some new mom friends. I wish I had found this when I was pregnant with the girls.

BMD: Did you have any complications during your pregnancy or delivery?
Yes, I had major complications! I had an emergency c-section at 7-month that didn’t go well resulting in a D&C and four other major surgeries (kindly click HERE to read my terrifying near-death birth experience.)

BMD: since your girls were born Premature and ended up in the NICU, how did you handle the Prematurity and NICU journey?
My girls were born at 32 weeks to the day (7 months), they stayed in the NICU for a month. Jordyn was 3lbs 12oz and Jayda was 4lbs 8oz. The twins were our first babies so with them being in the NICU, I guess I can say that was our daily “norm.” We didn’t know what it was like to have a baby and then take a baby home a few days after; you know the way it usually happens. As months passed and I got to really think about everything our family went through, I came to the conclusion that there was nothing “normal” about the journey we were on! But I believed I handled the prematurity and NICU journey really well and was very strong through it all. Strong Mom and Dad = strong babies! Don’t get me wrong, it was definitely hard to leave the girls in the hospital after I was finally discharged from the hospital but I knew that they were in great hands by the amazing NICU nurses and doctors. And obviously, we came and visited them for hours each day! I also was recovering physically from what I went through after having the girls. So it gave me some time to heal and get stronger for my girls when they were able to come home.

BMD: What are the ups and downs of being a twin mom?
The ups of being a twin mom is that I sometimes feel like a superhero. I housed and carried not one, but TWO babies! That’s crazy to me as I look back and think about it. Not everyone gets that opportunity and I just feel so blessed to be able to be called a twin mom. It’s also an amazing feeling when someone recognizes that it’s not an easy job to be a twin mom or even a mom and they tell me I’m doing a great job. It’s always a good feeling to be recognized for being a great parent.

The downs of being a twin mom is sometimes feeling like I have to carry the whole world on my shoulders not once but two times over, but I think this is a feeling for any mama out there whether you have twins or not. I feel like I want to be this perfect mom that has her sh*t together. I have to remind myself that it’s okay to not be perfect.

[READ also: Interview with Nickelle Solanke: On life as a mom of twins]

BMD: what’s your typical day like?
A typical day is me waking up at 3 AM and going to work. When I get home from work I then become a full-time mama. Dad works from home and is home for the morning shift with the girls; Dad working from home really helps us out. When I get home from a long day at work, I spend time and play with the girls, feed the girls, they may take a short nap in between, more playing, clean up the house, bathe them, work on my side hustle, more time and tending to the girls and it goes on and on. I feel like the list of things I have to get done is never-ending, you don’t often see me just hanging out on the couch. By the end of the day, this Mama is exhausted and ready to get to bed and do it all again tomorrow! (Of course Dad helps too)

BMD: What fascinates you the most about twins (especially your own)?
The bond that twins share fascinates me the most! My girls can’t talk yet, but the way they interact with each other just amazes me. They have such different personalities but they are alike in so many ways (and I’m not talking about their identical looks!)

BMD: What was the biggest fear you had going into twin motherhood?
My biggest fear was how was I going to take care of TWO babies?! I literally knew nothing about babies! I didn’t know how to change a diaper, I didn’t know how to make a bottle, or how much to feed and now I have to do it double time? I was so overwhelmed and so nervous, I don’t think there’s a word that describes how I felt. Oh and now we had to buy pretty much DOUBLE EVERYTHING! I felt like I had no time for myself and now I was going to be adding two more tiny humans to my family.

BMD: What has surprised you the most about your twin girls?
How smart they are and how they are thriving and growing stronger and smarter each day. You can’t tell that they were born two months early as preemie babies. They amaze me every day.

BMD: What is the number one myth about having twins you would like to debunk?
I’m not too familiar with twin myths, to be honest.

BMD: Is there any advice about having twins you wish you had been given?
Honestly, not really. It’s definitely an adventure figuring out this twin mama thing! It’s definitely overwhelming at times but also very very fun and rewarding!

BMD: What do you do when both babies are crying?
When I’m alone with both the girls and they both cry, I’m not going to lie, I sometimes stress out because I hate to hear them cry, and it breaks my heart. But there is only one of me and they outnumber me! I try my best to tend to each of them and it honestly depends on the situation we’re in. I can only change one dirty diaper at a time. When it comes to feeding, I can get them fed both at the same time, it takes some practice. I just kind of find what works for me and go from there!

BMD: Do twins run in your family?
Twins don’t run in my family but they run in Dad’s family. He has a few sets of fraternal twins in his family. But since our girls are identical, that has nothing to do with genetics. Identical twins are by chance; it’s when one egg splits after fertilization. So that was all me, he hates when I tell people who ask that! Lol.

[READ also: Identical twin mom, Katy details how she battled for her life in the most touching near-death birth experience ever!]

BMD: How do you handle their sleeping pattern?
At 3 months, the girls were sleeping through the WHOLE night! They’ve always been really good at night time “routine” and sleeping. We didn’t really have a sleeping pattern for them until they were about 6 months old. Now they have a routine which seems to be working extremely well. We get a full night’s sleep! We don’t have them on a strict routine during the day like some parents but they definitely have a routine. I feel as though it is important to have schedules for babies and children but not to the extent that you as a family have to miss out on certain family functions or events or life in general because you’re confined to your home. This is my personal opinion!

BMD: What are some tips/tricks you would share with a new (or pregnant) mom of twins?
Just take it day by day! Make sure you have a support system and get help when needed! Don’t be afraid to ask and take time for yourself! Mental health is so important!!

Useful TIPUse zip-up swaddles, this was a game-changer for us! This is when the girls started to sleep through the entire night!

BMD: Do you have any tips for breastfeeding twins? Do you feed them formula?
Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing what they feel is right. Make your own decisions, it’s your body and your babies, so do what you feel is right for your body and your babies!

Quick tip: lanolin cream is a lifesaver! Buy plenty! I breastfed for a bit and at 6 months I stopped for my own reasons and they are now on solids and formula.

BMD: What routine do you follow to feed your babies?
It’s simple. They let us know when they’re hungry. Some days are different than others if we are out and about or at an event, but for the most part, when we are home they have the same-ish eating schedule! They eat about 4-6 times a day depending on what the day is looking like! And 2-3 times a day is solid food followed by a smaller bottle of formula! As I said, we have a routine but it’s definitely not a strict one. The girls are really good babies and they adapt very well!

BMD: What will be your supporting words for new twin moms?
You got this MAMA! You are strong, you are amazing, and you are truly blessed! It’s okay not to be perfect. Some days will be harder than others but every single day it worth it! Just think you were given TWO babies for a reason! You are a rock star!

BMD: Have you ever been overwhelmed with mommy guilt and felt that you couldn’t do justice to your twin mom role? If so, how did you overcome this?
I’ve definitely felt mommy guilt but I have never thought I couldn’t handle my twin mama role. I can honestly say that I am really doing this twin mama thing well, I was afraid at first, but it has come so naturally for me! I just sometimes have to remind myself that I’m not perfect and the girls will still love me the same if their clothes are not folded the second they come out of the dryer and put away or if I take a few minutes for myself a day.

BMD: How would you describe motherhood in your own words?
Amazing! Honestly, before the girls, I couldn’t even picture myself as a mama. Now that I have my girls, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have a new found love for two tiny humans that I never thought was possible. I am a part of them and they are a part of me, always!

BMD: How much does it cost to raise twins?
A LOT! You can’t honestly put a price tag on that. Just know you will have to buy double in just about everything. This isn’t to scare anyone; it’s just the cold hard facts of being a twin parent!

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