Black Moms Daily: Who are you and what do you do?
My name is Stormie B, I am a twin mom, fiancee, and I’m the podcast host and chief editor of Black Women Who.
BMD: What was your first reaction when you found that you were carrying twins?
I was extremely shocked, and it was hectic because, at the appointment where my pregnancy was confirmed, we found out we were having twins, and then we were rushed to an emergency appointment right after that to make sure that the babies were not in the same sack after determining that they shared one placenta.
BMD: Did you take any special care to cope with your twin pregnancy?
Yes, I was on bed rest in the hospital during my twin pregnancy.
BMD: Did you have any complications during your pregnancy or delivery?
Yes, at my 25week routine visit, I was told that I had to be admitted in the hospital that same day until I gave birth to my babies. Since my babies shared a placenta I knew that I was at risk of some complications. I didn’t expect to be hit with the news of going to the hospital until birth though. I was diagnosed with IUGR which is Intrauterine Growth Restriction. Summer’s (baby A) umbilical cord was getting more blood flow from the placenta than Autumn’s (baby B) umbilical cord, causing Autumn to be born smaller than normal. I had to stay in the hospital to make sure that the blood flow didn’t stop completely. I spent 64 long, scary, and dedicated days there. It was the hardest journey I’ve had to face in my life but it also made me so strong and boosted my faith tremendously.
BMD: Were your twins born Premature? How did you handle the Prematurity and NICU journey?
I was able to keep my babies baking in until they were 34weeks. I am blessed. Summer was born 4.15oz and Autumn was born 3.9oz. Both were healthy and did not need oxygen even Autumn. They seated in the NICU for 15 days I believe. It was hard to leave my babies after carrying them and being in the hospital so long myself, to not leave with them was heartbreaking. However, I met some awesome doctors and nurses at the hospital so they helped me to cope physically and mentally. My fiancee was with me every step of the way he even stayed in the hospital with me every night. The NICU doctors and staff were very understanding and patient with me, they also taught me a lot that prepared me to bring them home.
BMD: What are the ups and downs of being a twin mom? And what’s your typical day like?
The ups of being a twin mom are the double dose cuteness and love that I get every day. Nothing compares to the feeling I get when they’re smiling, laughing, hugging and kissing me. Seeing them learn and grow together is beautiful and the twin bond is pure love. The downs would be just trying to multitask. The moments when they both are crying and hungry and teething. Having multiples just gives you more to manage at a time. It takes adjusting but being a mom you just adapt and make it work. It can get hard but it doesn’t outweigh the good at all.
BMD: What fascinates you the most about twins (especially your own)?
What fascinates me is how they really do things the same way. They’ll sleep in the exact same position and sometimes they hold their teethers the exact same way, things like that really awe me because I’m an only child.
BMD: What was the biggest fear you had going into twin motherhood?
My biggest fear was them not growing healthily, making sure that they are growing properly was my biggest concern being that I had IUGR. That I’d fail at being a perfect mom until I realized there’s no such thing as perfect.
BMD: What has surprised you the most about your twin girls?
That they are just fine, I mean perfect. Autumn is just as happy and healthy as her sister and has had fewer issues than Summer even though she was born smaller and is still smaller to this day. They are so funny and well behaved, they really make it easy on me being so mild-mannered and funny.
BMD: What is the number one myth about having twins you would like to debunk?
That a Twin Mom’s life is over because of the kids. I still am able to get some me-time. It really depends on your support system. I and my partner are blessed to have a schedule that works for us and the girls.
BMD: Is there any advice about having twins you wish you had been given?
Yes! To not over purchase!!! Although it is two babies they grow fast and I thought so many things were needed that they never even touched.
BMD: What do you do when both babies are crying?
I hold them both, period; or if I have help we will both comfort the babies. I do not like to let babies just cry it out. I think it’s important to comfort them and let them know that parental figure is there for them. Crying is the only way to communicate for them so I think it’s important to make them feel safe and cared for no matter what.
BMD: Do twins run in your family?
Not at all. This was God’s miracle.
BMD: How do you handle their sleeping pattern?
I am still adjusting but the key is a consistent schedule. The earlier you wake them and get the day started the earlier they will rest.
BMD: What are some tips/tricks you would share with a new (or pregnant) mom of twins?
To just be patent with yourself and your babies. Make time for self-love and self-care. Stay organized, its so much easier when you have a place for everything dealing with twin babies.
BMD: Do you have any tips for breastfeeding twins? Do you feed them formula? What routine do you follow to feed your babies?
I breastfed for 2 months then I had to stop because I simply couldn’t keep up with their demand. I formula feed and they have been just fine. They have only had 1 cold all year.
BMD: What will be your supporting words for new twin moms?
You’ve got this! I say that to twin moms all the time. Try not to compare your journey with others because we all are different, and don’t be too hard on yourself!
BMD: Have you ever been overwhelmed with mommy guilt and felt that you couldn’t do justice to your twin mom role? If so, how did you overcome this?
I have at times but I get it together fast. I have remained strong for them because I am the first example of a woman for them to follow. If I crack under pressure so will they, and I won’t have it. I pray, I look at them and appreciate how much they have grown and know that they depend on me that usually gives me the strength to push through.
BMD: How would you describe motherhood in your own words?
The hardest yet most rewarding job on earth.
BMD: How much does it cost to raise twins?
This question is so funny because I want to give a real answer which is simply “TOO MUCH” lol, but I’d say have aside an extra 20K a year, and that’s without daycare.